Sunday, 9 January 2011
Suddenly I twigged, it's about those voices, often from the past, telling me what I do is wrong, or could be better, or encouraging me to do things I know I shouldn't. In Transactional Analysis, these would be the Inner Child and the Inner Parent.
For me, the voices that are calling strongly are the "shoulds" - I should be a better mother, I should eat healthily all the time, I should be nice to everyone, I should be perfect (yeah right, realistic huh?) And also the "wants" - I want to eat chocolate right now, I want to have some time to play, I want to sleep.
If I allow these voices to take over, then I really will be haunted! What to do, then? Perhaps become aware that these are faceless ghosts, dead masks that I am breathing life into. If I refuse to do so, they will disappear.
Clearly, this is a question of things that I am often not very conscious of. So, bringing greater awareness to these voices, acknowledging when they are speaking to me, and then saying to myself, "This is a ghost. It has no power over me." Well, it's worth a try...
Image from the Oracle of Shadows and Light by Lucy Cavendish & Jasmine Becket-Griffith.